Contrary to what the lyrics of M*A*S*H*'s theme song might lead one to believe, suicide in fact is not painless (the song originated in the movie version of M*A*S*H*.) Suicide is painful, because whether or not the person who commits the act experiences the release that he/she seeks, that doesn't solve the problem for the family, friends, and others who are left behind in the wake of the tragedy.
I come to this topic because earlier this week, Hollywood actor Robin Williams decided to take his own life, a horrifying act, for sure, but also one that is cowardly and selfish. How else can it be explained? I apologize for the coarseness of my opinion, but I find it very hard to find much sympathy for a man who had as much talent as Williams did, as many admirers, and at one point at least, as much money as he did. None of those resources are a guarantee to avoid depression, from which he suffered, according to media reports, nor is it a guarantee of happiness, but many people without those resources manage to somehow get through the day.
I cannot begin to contemplate the state of mind one must be in, before contemplating suicide. It's something I simply cannot fathom. However, I'd like to think that if you are a person in that situation, and you are thinking about ending your own life, you would have exhausted every single last resource at your disposal before cashing out permanently, because it's a mistake you can't come back from. Death is permanent, regardless of what the "good people" of Alcor sold Ted Williams on in the early part of this century.
One comment that I saw from Williams' wife was something to the effect of "We should not focus on Robin's death." That's absolute bull, we should absolutely focus on his death. Why would a man who had so much going for him act in such a selfish manner? It is a question that needs to be evaluated. Further, just as much as professional athletes are 'role models' for children because of the limelight they are placed in, so are actors and actresses as well. Young people look up to Hollywood stars because they are famous, good looking, and generally well off. When someone in that manner chooses death over battling through life's struggles, what message does that send to the youth of the nation (world?)
In the end, Robin Williams made a tragic, final mistake, for whatever the reason he may have had. He chose to ignore family, friends, and associates who undoubtedly would have come to his aid at a moment's notice. It may have seemed like a painless act in the moment for him (though I can't imagine how), but the devastation he left behind (as is the case whenever someone chooses this route, whether an everyday citizen, or someone who is 'rich' and famous.) will be felt for years and generations to come. His wife, children, and future grandchildren will be forced to carry on without his being around to help guide them in any way. That is their loss, and its one that he bears responsibility for.
So while I understand the outpouring of sadness that has accompanied Williams' death, I believe it is misdirected, or at least parts of it are. Williams' family, not Williams' memory, are who are most in need. Williams chose to exit this life, and its pains, rather than soldier on with those that he loved most. It's devastating for them. It was a cowardly and selfish act by him.
